Re:Ask HN: How do you deal with getting old and feeling lost?
by matwood on Sunday February 06, 2022 @08:43AM
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Good post.
> Secondly, stop trying to define your life by "achieving".
It's easier said than done, but once I started focusing on the journey instead of the destination everything became much more enjoyable.
I used to get angry when something would not go to plan, but now I view it as a good story in the making. Bugs being discovered in code are now fun problems to solve. I power lifted for years and learned to enjoy the grind because I might go months before being able to add weight to a lift. Now I train jiu-jitsu and instead of thinking about some end state, I focus on enjoying the suck when getting smashed. Even something simple like raining outside. I don't run to my car, I purposely walk and enjoy the drops on my face.
It may sound silly, but this focus on the journey and being comfortable being uncomfortable really changed me for the better according to my friends and SO.
> Secondly, stop trying to define your life by "achieving".
It's easier said than done, but once I started focusing on the journey instead of the destination everything became much more enjoyable.
I used to get angry when something would not go to plan, but now I view it as a good story in the making. Bugs being discovered in code are now fun problems to solve. I power lifted for years and learned to enjoy the grind because I might go months before being able to add weight to a lift. Now I train jiu-jitsu and instead of thinking about some end state, I focus on enjoying the suck when getting smashed. Even something simple like raining outside. I don't run to my car, I purposely walk and enjoy the drops on my face.
It may sound silly, but this focus on the journey and being comfortable being uncomfortable really changed me for the better according to my friends and SO.