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Re:Unlearning perfectionism by jancsika on Saturday February 05, 2022 @03:31PM (#30225603)
> The thought process is something like “well I hold myself to a high (but maybe poorly defined and changing) standard, so why not hold those in my life to that same standard!?”

Seems like a lot hinges on your parenthetical.

If Bob has a well-defined and consistent standard that works for him, what's wrong with filtering Eve out of his life with it?

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Re:Unlearning perfectionism by whatshisface on Saturday February 05, 2022 @09:12PM (#30228584)
Wrong cosmically? Nothing, prejudice is a self-punishing mistake. Wrong for Bob? Well, he's lost a friend and not gained anything.
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Re:Unlearning perfectionism by zwkrt on Saturday February 05, 2022 @04:20PM (#30226200)
Oh no of course we should all be discerning. But TFA talks about pinning self-esteem to the outcomes of projects in the world. I was describing a situation i saw where an individual’s “projects” were their close relationships. People are not projects to be worked on.
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