> Hacker News really is hostile to the LGBTQ community.

I never noticed that. Keep in mind that HN is not a uniform mass, it's full of people with wildy different opinions. Yes, there are probably some homophobic comments, but they are a tiny minority.

> seeing people here equate being gay to a mental disorder

I would expect such a comment to get downvoted into oblivion and/or called out by other users.