CPAs are good at math and accounting and generally quite bad at reading and applying the law. Use a CPA for your tax filings, and use a tax lawyer for anything that involves complexity. Tax law is administrative law, so a lot of things that would apply to criminal law doesn't apply (for example, tax strategies can retroactively be deemed illegal, taxpayers can be penalized for violating the spirit of the rules despite adhering to the text of the rules, etc.).
I would say make enough money for appeals court!
Bump that to at least $10,000 if you wind up putting down a retainer for a tax lawyer.
But CPAs are just as excited to research the same stuff and can give you the same answers, and their sign off on some activities can have some weight.
It gets easier to rationalize when you follow my simple mantra: do things worth litigating over.
Rules out lots of other ways to waste your time.
And gravitate towards the things that have durable consensus or more easily rationalizable consensus
But those kinds of requests during the first consultations make it pretty obvious if you want to work with them. If their whole business is just filing 1040-EZ’s for people with the standard deduction and collecting child tax credits, then they wont be prepared and you can rule them out.
Has the marriage concluded in divorce/death yet? Otherwise I'm not sure how much weight should be placed in that recommendation ;)
Everyone should do themselves a favor and pay for a CPA firm (not just your friend that happens to be a CPA), learn some things just treat it as expensive education.
Its very different doing exploratory stuff with a CPA, compared to needing a CPA last minute for a problem you already have. They have excerpts from journals they are subscribed to that can inspire you about things you didnt know.