Re:Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' for...
by DarylZero on Wednesday December 29, 2021 @10:26AM
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Therapy doesn't do anything for personality disorders. Therapy can't undo the childhood traumas that cause personality disorders. A personality disorder by definition is an inability to change that begins at childhood.
Re:Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' for...
by pizza234 on Wednesday December 29, 2021 @01:04PM
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Therapy is not (necessarily) a solution to the given problem; it can help handle problems. In the specific case of estranged relatives, it can establish some level of communication, which can be a very significant step.
Re:Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' for...
by DarylZero on Wednesday December 29, 2021 @02:28PM
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A step towards what? Even in the field of psychology* it's generally accepted that personality disorders don't resolve.
[*] Psychology as an analog to medical science is also a con job. Psychotherapies don't need to prove efficacy in clinical trials like drugs do. Whenever anybody does bother to do a study like that though (again -- purely voluntary) therapy never shows itself to be very effective at doing anything. But especially not for people with personality disorders.
Re:Down the Rabbit Hole: The world of estranged parents' for...
by pizza234 on Wednesday December 29, 2021 @05:40PM
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Towards communicating between the two parties, which is significantly better than permanently truncating contact. But also prevent certain events/developments.
A minimum of progress could avoid, for example, the abusive parents calling the social services, and/or going to court, and/or receiving a restraining order.
There's lots of behavior that therapy can (potentially, of course) at least mitigate or teach to handle.
I don't support the "doing their best" philosophy. Everybody does their best; at the very least, in the sense that actions are rationalized as the best in the moment.
The website deals with this theme at least twice. One point is [here](https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/dysfunction...), under "Disfunctional beliefs":
The real difference between parents is those who are willing to sacrifice themselves and change, and those who don't. Theraphy can help a lot, and I bet that all the abusive parents actively refuse it precisely because they don't want that change.