No. It is not normal. Forget about work for a second.

I have people who depend on me. I am responsible for their livelihoods. I have to get rest, wake in the morning, do chores, shower and groom myself -- you get the idea. What's the alternative? That's not a world I want to live in.

A thought experiment I use often is: imagine I hired a personal assistant to help me with mundane tasks I struggle with. They start and take that burden off of me.

Is this a good thing? Am I going to be able to improve or overcome my disability now that someone is doing that for me?

Imagine that the personal assistant is a volume knob. Why would I never have that knob turned all the way up? Could I even bring myself to do it? If I could, where would I set it? Other than the extremes, what is the healthiest volume?

I know what would help, and I know what I need to improve, but finding a balance is next to impossible.

There's the theory (I have no links and don't know how prevalent it is) that people with what we now call ADHD used to be the hunters in their tribes. For that it may have been a great trait to be able to both quickly notice many small details and also be able to zero in on something specifically interesting for a long time.

Then again it can be said for many things.

It is not normal. I still have not bought christmas gifts for my family, who I love dearly and who I do not want to disappoint, even though I have their wish lists in a different tab and it will only take a few clicks to be done. Instead I have fought my ADHD brain for weeks trying to get myself to do it and failing.

That is different from a neurotypical person who feels gift giving is difficult. Happy christmas.

I hope things get better. Cut yourself some slack, it's been a hard year.

Update: I got it done. Printer ran out of ink at the last minute but I found a spare. When there's no margin for error, little things like that can bring the whole thing down.

Thanks for the kind words.

I've bought all of my stuff in the past two and a half days, and was only able to do it because I had family around to help me out. You're not alone brother/sister.

This is pretty dismissive to everyone with ADHD

Maybe a better question is "in what jobs is an ADHD personality not a problem, or even an advantage?".

Any kind of creative pursuit (where creating is in the eye of the creator) where they’re free to hyperfocus and given relief when that’s exhausting. We (with ADHD) are notoriously productive to the point of severe exhaustion or burnout when we’re working on what we care about or can get motivated to care about.