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Re:Ask HN: How to optimize your career for happiness? by samhw on Sunday December 19, 2021 @11:42AM (#29615406)
> talking with a lot of people lets them see patterns an individual can't

This is a really nice distillation of the value of talking to a therapist. I really appreciate this comment.

Re:Ask HN: How to optimize your career for happiness? by wpietri on Sunday December 19, 2021 @01:20PM (#29616614)
For sure. And I should add it may take people a few tries to find the right therapist. Because it's not just seeing the patterns, it's also being able to explain them to the individual in question.
Re:Ask HN: How to optimize your career for happiness? by samhw on Monday December 20, 2021 @02:55PM (#29629380)
Absolutely. My dad's a psychoanalyst, and he's always emphasised to all of us that - if you see a therapist - you're not evaluating them as a person or as a professional, you're evaluating the 'spark' between you and them. It's not an indication of fault on either part if it doesn't work out.