> I lay any blame squarely at the feet of IT security of large organisations that were entirely unprepared to update a widely used dependency that wasn't an operating system or a runtime.
If there is the possibility to plan ahead from a sufficiently strong bargaining position, you will not end up in the situation you described. The seller should either continue to support it with a good SLA, or you get the source code with a turn-key build system if the seller discontinues its support. Or you switch out the software if the SLA ends. Should you not be able to agree on such terms, I don't think you would have enough influence to tell the seller to write their software in such a way that dependencies are easy to hotfix/upgrade.
Ok, after putting the unicorns herd to bed, an event happens and congratulations, you now own a license to PeopleSoft v.whatever source code. Oh yeah, you also got the management platform for your network provider too.
Now what?