I also fought with Maven and discarded it. Two years later I was dreaming of a different kind of build system and started building a prototype. I quit working on it and started using Maven again after I realized that the concepts I now embraced were the philosophy behind Maven.

So either it tooks me a couple years to actually grok the Maven way, or Maven got a hold of me when my mind had gotten to a particular place. Now it seems like second nature and I've got a lot of plugins that allow me to manage my complete life-cycle. It may seem funny, but to a large degree, I even use it like Puppet or Chef.