Re:Daddy isn’t coming back
by nicoburns on Thursday November 18, 2021 @06:11AM
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How is your 13 year old with the social stuff? As someone who seems to be similar to your son (although I'm much older - and a software developer like you), I would comment that it is having strong social connections that brings purpose to my life, and the degree to which I've been integrated in a social community has correlated strongly with times of my life where I've been happy versus times in my life where I've felt like everything is meaningless.
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He has strong social anxiety if it's even more than a moderately sized group of people. But very much at home and happy when it's a small group of people he knows well, or one-on-one.
The same is true for both my brother and myself... I have a number of quite close friends, yet my preferred interaction is one-on-one.
Couldn't agree more that it's strong social connections that bring purpose. He's struggling on that front being out of school, but school brings other troubles.
(The other aspect of purpose is a sense of achievement in one's work... that's a struggle too.)