Ask HN: I'm making like 0 friends at college, how to fix it?

Re:Ask HN: I'm making like 0 friends at college, how to fix it? by kjeetgill on Saturday October 23, 2021 @03:43PM (#28971590)

As someone who needed this advice thread in my youth, i have to heartily disagree with you. Projecting my own experience here:

> anyone with a reasonable amount of intelligence

...can talk themselves into feeling apprehensive about pretty much anything. Not advice for OP necessary, but getting out of your head is definitely advice many of us needed.

All this jazz about brain chemicals is just as much a distraction. Just another "intelligent excuse". It can be harder for you, and depression or other conditions can make things even harder, but buying into this intrinsic sense of this is what I am is what reenforces these traps.

Edit: You've since elaborated, but I'll let my original post stand. I agree with you much more now!

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Re:Ask HN: I'm making like 0 friends at college, how to fix it? by whatshisface on Saturday October 23, 2021 @03:44PM (#28971604)

Talking yourself into feeling apprehensive about everything sounds like anxiety, which I think we're agreeing, while using different words, needs to be overcome before anything else can happen - but afterwards the rest will probably fall in to place. The neurology vs psychology thing is a semantic issue, really, whatever solves the problems works, and the problem is the same whatever we call it.

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