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Re:Ask HN: I'm making like 0 friends at college, how to fix it? by doktorhladnjak on Saturday October 23, 2021 @03:12PM (#28971334)
Agreed. It is tiresome.

Starving? Just eat some food

Insomniac? Just go to sleep

Socially anxious? Just be more social

No friends? Just put yourself out there

All the same useless advice

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Re:Ask HN: I'm making like 0 friends at college, how to fix it? by vanviegen on Saturday October 23, 2021 @04:07PM (#28971770)
Do you notice how your last example (the one that was actually suggested by GP) doesn't fit the pattern? That would be:

No friends? Just get more friends.

The advice as given by GP is at least somewhat actionable.

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Re:Ask HN: I'm making like 0 friends at college, how to fix it? by drooby on Saturday October 23, 2021 @04:29PM (#28971934)
Being more social was a legit solution for me for social anxiety. It’s called exposure therapy and has quite a bit of research to back up its efficacy if done properly.

This seems like the classic confusion caused by conflating “simple” and “easy”. Simple advice may be useful.

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Re:Ask HN: I'm making like 0 friends at college, how to fix it? by tomcooks on Saturday October 23, 2021 @06:10PM (#28972854)
It works most times, case in point: don't get angry
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