I agree with you. I get the idea that business and pleasure should be isolated, but for me... 8 of my most-awake hours are spent at work, so I'm going to do normal human things. Some people I will like more than others. Some people will learn things about me that are an information-theoretical disadvantage for me. So it goes. You can make your life miserable if you want to, but it's also OK to be normal.

I used to be the "no fun allowed" type, and I wasn't really getting a lot out of it. Now I go to all the "fun" non-work events and have a great time. To each, their own, I guess.

Because you're at work to have a good career and get paid.

>so what so they talk behind your back, and that's not good for a work environment. so if any of them are in management, they will impede your career. so eventually when one of those guys you pissed off has a couple of beers too many at a company outing, he is going to talk office-inappropriate crap, and despite what you might think that is bad not just for him, but for you as well.

>I'm quite fine if some people don't like me they're not "some people." they are coworkers, and by adding a personal relationship, you are impeding the work you're there to do. if you're not there for work, why not be at a baseball game, and why bother negotiating for a salary? you know who is not fine if some people at the office don't like you, because of a reason You provided to them? everyone above you in your org chart.

Look, like I said, to each their own. From your posts it seems quite clear you have no problem not being friends with people at work. More power to you.