I would contest the claim that being an asshole is something that “happens to” a person, rather than something that the person chooses to do.
Re:A new biography of John von Neumann
by misbyrming on Monday October 11, 2021 @11:26AM
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I don't think that anyone ever chooses to be an asshole. I think people realise that they've been assholes, or they don't. I agree that people become assholes through things they do by choice, but I don't think anybody does something only an asshole would with the express purpose of being an asshole.
I'm naive, huh?
Additionally, I believe that being an asshole is a negative consequence (of one's choices in life?) in and of itself. In a sense, I think it's the worse thing that can possibly happen to a person, to be an asshole.