> And yes, I believe it is 'ok if the mentally weak feel welcome', I do not believe you should need to be an emotionally impervious hero to wish to attend a social or professional gathering.

That was not the question the op was asking, and you're misrepresenting his point by removing the second part.

Edit: The question was: assuming that there exist a risk that all this struggle for inclusivity will repel those people [from categories you are specifically trying to include] that already manage to fight and stand up for their rights, is the risk worth it? At least, that's how I read it.

And the answer can still be "yes", obviously, as long as we're clear about the question.