> I’m a black college student now and every conversation
  > with friends back home includes some mention of
  > dropping out because it’s not for us as well.

Naive question, I don't live where you live. But who is the "us" that your friends speak of? Black people? Black Americans? Black people from a specific subculture?

And finally, what determines that college is not for the "us" your friend refers to? Culture? Post-graduation job prospects? At least from his perspective.