Re:Ask HN: What advice would you give about feeling stuck an...
by apohn on Saturday September 04, 2021 @07:49PM
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I was in a similar situation at one point. Baby was already born at that point, but the VP of my org changed and basically everybody they brought on (including a new manager for my team) were not people I could work well with. My old manager and I got along well and respected each other, but they couldn't tolerate the VP and left.
One huge positive for me was that I realized all I could do is mentally check out and focus on home life. I stayed in the job longer than I wanted to, but it was still the right choice to stay. Mentally checking out didn't really have any detrimental effect on my career because I knew I'd never stay there willingly work with those people.
There were a lot of rough days though, and more than a few where I felt totally helpless and just wanted to quit. It's not like focusing on your home life will get rid of those feelings. Sleep deprivation and an didn't help me feel better about the job. But sleep deprivation isn't a great thing to have during job hunting or the first 90 days of a job where you are trying to prove yourself.
One huge positive for me was that I realized all I could do is mentally check out and focus on home life. I stayed in the job longer than I wanted to, but it was still the right choice to stay. Mentally checking out didn't really have any detrimental effect on my career because I knew I'd never stay there willingly work with those people.
There were a lot of rough days though, and more than a few where I felt totally helpless and just wanted to quit. It's not like focusing on your home life will get rid of those feelings. Sleep deprivation and an didn't help me feel better about the job. But sleep deprivation isn't a great thing to have during job hunting or the first 90 days of a job where you are trying to prove yourself.