My point in sharing that story at all was that I perceive that as an unfair societal expectation problem, not one born out of sexism, but I'm a case study of one.

While the things this director rattled off were taken of note, "consequences" would've been good to stop at a conversation. They became non-constructive when they went too far, especially for something far out of my control. The biggest change I made was not interviewing at product or traditional businesses. Engineering firms tend to not have these problems. I once regarded Apple as an engineering firm, but it could be argued they've grown to such a size that they lost homogeneity that would otherwise benefit them in these scenarios.

Thanks for the thoughts regardless.