Re:U.S. labor agency investigating two complaints from Apple...
by naravara on Friday September 03, 2021 @08:46AM
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If seen this pattern happen where people get into little gossip circles where they ruminate on slights and offenses so much that they become magnified in their minds. Looking at it from outside that circle things seem pretty mild or not like anything to be concerned about, but when you dwell on them constantly and surround yourself with people consistently reinforcing the validity of dwelling on them, it takes on a life of its own.
Then when the seed is planted everything the gossip target says it does gets put under a microscope to confirm the suspicion that they hate you or are discriminatory or are retaliating over something or other.
I don’t really know what the fix is. I think the basecamp furore recently might be the way. Just discourage this sort of clique formation around airing grievances. But then that has the effect of not giving space for valid grievances.
Re:U.S. labor agency investigating two complaints from Apple...
by dahfizz on Friday September 03, 2021 @09:08AM
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> It appears she had an open conversation with HR for almost six years complaining about many of the folks she'd ever worked with.
Some people think they are hated because they are in $OpressedGroup, when in reality they are just insufferable.
Re:U.S. labor agency investigating two complaints from Apple...
by arcticbull on Friday September 03, 2021 @06:30AM
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Holy moly she wants to get Apple on a RICO Racketeering charge and a two year long false imprisonment?! da fuq?! [2]
I'm not saying there aren't some legitimate potential instances of concern documented here, or at least grey areas (director inviting Ashley to drinks alone, 'looking sad' when she brought a friend and talking about his ex-wife) - but they are glossed over, and instead the focus is on sensationalizing some things I would consider trivial. The things I would consider particularly concerning are deemphasized in Ashley's narrative [2].
I suspect some of her 2015 concerns amounted to her manager and team really just not liking her very much. I suspect the behavior Ashley is pointing to wasn't sexism (from her female manager) but rather that she went over her manager's head to the director and shit-talked her. Naturally this was filed under a "Quid-pro-quo" complaint to HR.
It appears she had an open conversation with HR for almost six years complaining about many of the folks she'd ever worked with.