> self-control, impulse control, being able to manage your emotions with a toolbox: these are skills that are learned, honed, and mastered.

I got news for ya bub. They aren't learned. They can be honed to a small degree. They cannot be mastered.

When you have ADHD you realize this.

And to your last thing. Not in all cases but in some.

Surely having ADHD would only give insight into whether it can be learned by someone with (that type of) ADHD, it doesn't speak to whether it's natural or learned for other people - just as someone who has a physical disability not being able to learn to ride a bike wouldn't prove that riding a bike can't be learned?

(I'm not arguing for or against the point that they can be learned, just against the "proof" that someone with ADHD has - and not because of ADHD specifically, but because generally speaking any argument which relies on "my experience proves X about humans" is likely to be short-sighted.)

It's part of social functioning, and we obviously have genes for that purpose. Other social animals have comparable instincts, such as respect for dominance hierarchies among others.

> and we obviously have genes for that purpose

That's far from obvious. You can't just observe some trait in an organism, and conclude "that must have genetic origins".