Trying to cram fact patterns like described in TFA into the same bucket as violent rape is a great way to make sure neither is treated appropriately.

One person is literally a caged minor and the other person is an adult with unilateral power over them including legal authority to use violence against them or even write a report that extends their sentence.

This is exactly what is done all the time with non-violent male-on-female rape, and that's taken seriously. Why is it any different here?

They both spent a lot of time together and there is nothing else to do (flirt with). I prefer to deescalate this over your approach of escalating it!

You are referring to rape. What is there to "deescalate"? Why would you want to "deescalate" someone who is going to commit rape?

Maybe they meant "defenestrate"?

I prefer to punish abuses of power rather than "deescalate".