Maybe I haven’t found the right one yet. The last psychologist wanted to chat about the weather or something. I know I can set goals independently and execute on them. I lost 40 pounds during the pandemic after setting a weight loss goal. But you’re right it is multifaceted. It feels like a game of whacka mole where I put intentionality and care into one part of my life (career, or health) and the other parts languish.

Therapists are likely similar to software developers: only a small proportion are really good. These days there are some great psychology resources on YouTube that could be helpful.