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Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by chrisseaton on Saturday August 28, 2021 @09:38PM (#28343289)
You shouldn’t save money over looking after your mental health. Your own space as an adult is important.
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by pessimizer on Saturday August 28, 2021 @10:10PM (#28343460)
People have usually lived with/near their extended families for most of their lives for thousands of years, and currently in most cultures. It isn't a proof or cause of mental illness.

It's a failure of reproduction of the middle class, though. When you're born rich, it's easy to die rich (without being adventurously stupid), when you're born poor, it's effortless to die poor. The middle-class is the class that has to rebuild every generation. We've allowed so much corruption and rent-seeking that it's not happening anymore.

Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by hgs3 on Saturday August 28, 2021 @10:31PM (#28343561)
Moving out caused my mental health to deteriorate. The meaninglessness of living alone and wasting my life working for Big Corp made me suicidal. I was hospitalized in a psych ward for a week. I tried half a dozen antidepressants. Nothing helped. Now I've moved back with my parents and I'm trying to turn my own, meaningful (to me) projects into a business. I don't know if things will work out financially, but I already feel much better than I did. Regardless, I don't believe I'll ever feel the way I once did about this world.
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by sjg007 on Sunday August 29, 2021 @11:28AM (#28347485)
You are not alone and this is not unusual. I don't think the Western world has quite figured out how to transition people to a successful adulthood. Or if that is something we are supposed to do cold turkey. It takes a village right?

My mental health deteriorated too. Looking back I should have built a support network and gone to therapy.. a lot of therapy. This all hit me at the end of college and in grad school. So I was broke too.

I didn't really have family to fall back on either, I was lonely and felt alone.

I'm still working on it, despite marriage/kids etc... I actually wish I had capitalized on my alone time in retrospect. Hence therapy!

>Regardless, I don't believe I'll ever feel the way I once did about this world.

Do you want to feel that way? What you have now is perspective and you know more about yourself.

Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by chrisseaton on Sunday August 29, 2021 @03:28PM (#28349695)
> I don't think the Western world has quite figured out how to transition people to a successful adulthood.

That's what college is for.

Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by yardie on Tuesday August 31, 2021 @09:16AM (#28367671)
If you mean giving teenagers loans on terms that fuck them over long into adulthood, yes that is closer to adulting than most would believe.
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by sjg007 on Sunday August 29, 2021 @08:35PM (#28351804)
Yes and no. In my comment I said I went to college and grad school. Maybe we need to take classes on the psychology of being an adult or something.
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by kiba on Saturday August 28, 2021 @10:08PM (#28343447)
That should be determined on an individual basis and living situation.

Not everybody has parents that they can tolerate.

Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by megohere on Saturday August 28, 2021 @10:32PM (#28343573)
Now, this is a real boomer take.

The issue isn't that young people don't want to move into their own place. It's that they literally can't without ruining themselves. For me, moving out of my parents place would mean moving to a tiny shithole that costs over 800CAD and is situated in the worst neighborhood of my city. It would be worse for my mental health (which is already hampered because I find modern cities unbearable) but also an idiotic financial decision.

Point is, all I want is to move away and live in solitude and independence but I think the government would probably find me even if I moved into a cabin in the woods in Yukon.

Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by anonnyj on Saturday August 28, 2021 @09:51PM (#28343365)
Constantly splurging on instant gratifications does the opposite of help one's mental health.
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by yann2 on Saturday August 28, 2021 @10:15PM (#28343480)
Its the US. Lots of parents have mental health issues. Nothing good happens to kids who stick around in unhealthy environments. Which is to say the path that works depends a lot on the type of people you are around.
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by drdeadringer on Saturday August 28, 2021 @10:16PM (#28343492)
Not everyone's parents are good role models [define "good" as you wish], or actually want you there, &c.
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by Quikinterp on Saturday August 28, 2021 @09:58PM (#28343406)
Seems like he was referring to moving out and spending money on rent, from what I can gather
Re:A majority of young adults in the U.S. live with their pa... by void_mint on Saturday August 28, 2021 @10:01PM (#28343422)
Who's talking about constantly splurging?