I agree with your framing except that in 2 and 3, the matter is already settled. The status quo is Apple gets to build what it wants. It’s on you and others to do an immense amount of work to prove that Apple should be forced into building features you want and not what they deem best. I’m generally happy with what they’ve made, and I think the power to compel them to make changes is more likely to be wielded by dumb and possibly malevolent people than altruistic, privacy-focused computer experts.

I’m not sure why the burden to do user surveys is on me. Presumably the first order user survey is, “Will our customers abandon us?” which Apple must have done and everything past that is on you to conduct to justify your ask of them.