Therapy can help! I had a handful of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) and re-writing my script (not letting those ACE define me) has been a wonderful adventure. Mostly credit is due to The Blindboy Podcast, with help from friends and a hired counselor (temporary, and essential when I needed to unload all my thoughts freely. Now I can talk myself through with CBT and burn the paper). It’s about growth, not dependence.