Lots of what you don’t like, little of what you might? Seems just about where so many of us have been in the past, so don’t despair!

The general advice is to sit down with your partner and plan out the outside-work five-year and ten-year plan. Does it involve kids? Moving? Founding a startup? Having a proper weekend hobby or starting already on checking off bucket lists?

The only way out of a rut is change. The longer you leave it, the worse the choices will be.