I agree with you this does seem to be the case in most companies, but I think that is because a majority of the people would look at it the exact same way you are. If you, your manager, their manager...etc all think this way, then you will think a person asking you how to solve a problem is weak because you would never do it yourself. Now if the majority of the people at your company believed in these 3 points personally, then the whole dynamic would change. Granted this is a bit of a perfect world scenario, but it is one that any new founder or hiring manager can start putting into place from day 1.