I feel for you. My grandparents were apart of the Italian diaspora too, but they ended up in Canada. I often thought how difficult it would be if I had to choose because both countries are close to my heart. I’ve seen a number of American friends that are also duel citizens have to deal with the stress and unfairness that you have. I just feel really lucky and privileged that I don’t have to be in the position to choose even though I no longer live in Canada or Italy.