Re:Ask HN: Best resources to support a partner with depression?
by peterburkimsher on Wednesday August 04, 2021 @09:46PM
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This is not medical advice.
Your attitude is good, you care for your partner and are trying to help! You know you're not perfect, and honestly admit your own struggles. Therefore I feel like you'd be the best person to speak into their life, rather than some counsellor.
For me, music helps. Here's a playlist, if punk rock is their style.
Chocolate, words of encouragement ("you're not alone"), and opportunities to talk to total strangers (who will not gossip to friends) have all been helpful to me.
Personally I think the word "depression" is rather vague: does it mean feeling bad? feeling nothing? wanting to die? All of those are different in my opinion, but are often lumped all together as a "problem" to be solved.
Detachment from life can be freeing. I can say "I'll love you to death". The worst that the world can threaten is the death penalty, but I'm not afraid any more (V for Vendetta). This doesn't mean I feel bad! If my life is still useful for serving others (fixing computers, writing code, having the right adaptors) then it's better for us all that I stay here. But I have a greater hope for what's on the other side.
Your attitude is good, you care for your partner and are trying to help! You know you're not perfect, and honestly admit your own struggles. Therefore I feel like you'd be the best person to speak into their life, rather than some counsellor.
For me, music helps. Here's a playlist, if punk rock is their style.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLfNF8TQij08rRJMIp0i5k...
Chocolate, words of encouragement ("you're not alone"), and opportunities to talk to total strangers (who will not gossip to friends) have all been helpful to me.
Personally I think the word "depression" is rather vague: does it mean feeling bad? feeling nothing? wanting to die? All of those are different in my opinion, but are often lumped all together as a "problem" to be solved.
Detachment from life can be freeing. I can say "I'll love you to death". The worst that the world can threaten is the death penalty, but I'm not afraid any more (V for Vendetta). This doesn't mean I feel bad! If my life is still useful for serving others (fixing computers, writing code, having the right adaptors) then it's better for us all that I stay here. But I have a greater hope for what's on the other side.