This is exactly right. Producers get hyper-optimized on change, while users want either no change, or obvious improvements. Majority of incentives and goals of producers rarely align with every individual user.

In this regard, I find Linux XWindows and WMs to strike a good balance. It allows me to choose Xfce, or even i3. It gets most of the bad bits about modern computing (notifications, desktop sounds, panels, popups, windows-fiddling, desktop icons, shortcuts, ads, whatever will they come up with next), to just go away and not torment me anymore.