I find that this article [0] from Conway and Kochen is helpful. The authors do not really explain the paradoxes of quantum mechanics. Instead they reduce them to minimal fundamental axioms that have been tested and observed experimentally, even though they are arguably highly counter-intuitive (notably SPIN and TWIN). Based on those axioms, the authors show that you cannot send a message through entanglement. More precisely, they show that a particle has a free will, in the sense that the result of a measurement on it "is not a function of properties of that part of the universe that is earlier than this response".

[0]: https://www.ams.org/notices/200902/rtx090200226p.pdf