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Re:A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement by lordnacho on Wednesday July 14, 2021 @05:56PM (#27838928)
Fair enough, I'm probably in minority. I don't see anything wrong with living through the kids, for me it's just one way to explore the world.
Re:A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement by filoleg on Wednesday July 14, 2021 @07:08PM (#27839609)
Imo there is nothing wrong with it, but only if you are truly "exploring the world" in a sense of being an observer and trying to take in what your kid is experiencing, while providing advice and guidance if needed.

Where it starts being wrong is when people take "living through my kids" as "controlling and demanding my kids live the way I imagine I would have wanted to live, if I was in their shoes now".

Note: when I say "kids", I mean someone's children who are already adults and have their own life to live. I am not trying to say that kindergarten-aged children should be given full freedom to make their own life decisions and that any attempt to infringe on that is wrong.

Re:A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement by panopticon on Wednesday July 14, 2021 @07:06PM (#27839599)
I think a lot of the negative connotation comes from the type of parent that's trying to live out old glory years or missed opportunities through their child by forcing them into a particular sport or activity instead of allowing their child to grow as an individual.
Re:A shift in American family values is fueling estrangement by sircastor on Wednesday July 14, 2021 @06:25PM (#27839223)
I think that's a very smart way to explore the world, but I think with the premise of "living through your kids", you're forgetting to live yourself.