Re:Men are rapidly losing their close friends, poll finds
by nazgulnarsil on Saturday June 26, 2021 @09:33PM
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One of the culture gaps between USA and other countries is how easily USA conflate fair weather friends/acquaintances with real friendship. Weird from that perspective when someone acts like they want to be friends with everyone because if there is actual commitment then you literally can't be close friends with too many people, you wouldn't have enough time to regularly connect.
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Re:Men are rapidly losing their close friends, poll finds
by Akronymus on Saturday June 26, 2021 @09:48PM
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I am from Austria, Europe and it takes A LOT for me to call someone a friend.
Partially because having been dropped by a few "friends" in my childhood though.
Re:Men are rapidly losing their close friends, poll finds
by failwhaleshark on Sunday June 27, 2021 @06:57AM
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I must be the weird American who thinks the word "friend" still means something. Acquaintances and Facebook friends don't mean squat to me without aligned interests and/or repeatedly-observed indicators of character. And, I don't have time for unnecessary online "social"-climbing, people who waste my time, drag me down, or mooch.
- had you at a disadvantage but never exploited it
- someone who helps you move a couch and a desk
- lend a book to and always get it back
- lend a small amount of money to and always get it back
- leave something at their place and they tell you about it
- can count on them for a couch if you get locked-out
The closest of friends:
- you would kill for them and vice-versa
- you trust them implicitly with everything: secrets, material, and family
- you could be mistaken for family and/or your families blend together to where no one can really tell who-is-with-who