I’m not sure why discussing facts wild count as finger wagging. I’ve patented and continue to parent a bunch of kids and understand how hard it is, although everyone’s experience is different.

The scientific literature is pretty settled that even “educational” games are counterproductive. [0] The American Academy of Pediatricians discourages all screentime, except for video chat, for kids under two years.

The problems with me, or you, giving a screen for twenty minutes is called out in the article I linked.

It’s not the end of the world, but it’s a negative contributor to many factors including obesity, anxiety, sleepnessless, violence.

It’s also funny that you assume I and others aren’t parents and can somehow know my situation.

I’m not criticizing you and I’m sure you and your wife deserve to have a conversation. I was just bringing up how the study should have looked at confounding variables like screen usage that could partially explain what’s going on.

[0] https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/childrens-healt...

This is just as meaningless.

...as your own screed above.

I have seen this line used often. However, from an anti-natalist perspective, actually raising children is a mistake. Therefore, no one should actually expected to actually raise children, and simply judging those who do without that firsthand experience is perfectly reasonable.

Even then, raising children is not what anti-natalism condemns. It's bringing children to life. It's not reasonable to condemn a care giver who didn't beget the child (and it's usually impossible to know whether they did).