Re:Troubled teens left traumatised by tough love camps
by blindmute on Saturday June 19, 2021 @11:03AM
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Trauma is like a sunburn. Adversity will give your brain a "tan", letting you handle worse adversity over time, but too much at once and it's trauma. The problem is that the kind of teens who go into these programs are often the equivalent of ghost pale, and get traumatized by even mild adversity.
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Re:Troubled teens left traumatised by tough love camps
by bjornsing on Saturday June 19, 2021 @11:45AM
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That’s a good analogy. It also covers the increased sensitivity to additional trauma/adversity that it seems many people can’t understand: If you already have a serious sunburn then just a little more time in the sun, something you could normally handle, can cause a lot of pain and damage.
Re:Troubled teens left traumatised by tough love camps
by aaron-santos on Saturday June 19, 2021 @02:05PM
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It also covers the case where repeated sunburns increase ones chances of malignant cancers.
Re:Troubled teens left traumatised by tough love camps
by ksaj on Sunday June 20, 2021 @11:53AM
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I think you just hit the nail on the head.
My family is forever destroyed from "tough love." I'm in my 50's and we still don't talk except for exchanging cards with the parents at various appropriate times throughout the year. They've apologized, but the scars are very deep.
We grew so distant that it is no longer repairable, and so we at least maintain that very distant relationship. I don't communicate in any way with the siblings since "tough love" taught me to despise them. Obviously I don't despise them any more, but the damage is done, and quite thoroughly.