This seems like deeply wise advice in a forum which is mostly too rational. Thank you.

I feel like this is the sort of insight that I could use to understand why any of my friends or people I respect have been able to "settle" for a life which in the end is deeply fulfilling (vs my own approach which may always be seeking something more exciting but shallow.)

I feel like you're touching on a critical point by mentioning that by committing to something which may be not be the interesting life, you hit upon something which could be far more fulfilling. This is experiencing life on another level. This is something you aren't even aware of as you're hesitating to commit.

"and the rest is actually made up by your own faith and hard work in deepening the relationship"

And this is something I must have heard from everyone who has made a significant contribution to my cultural development (parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, community leaders.)

Maybe you should be the one to be teaching the course. Thank you! I would love to talk to you more if you read this comment.