Re:Why I no longer contribute to Racket
by beaconstudios on Wednesday June 16, 2021 @04:00PM
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Personally, I think trying to understand why the dynamic is occurring is more helpful. Sure, sometimes people are just assholes and need a dressing down, but more often things are a bit more complex - they should still be confronted about their behaviour, but just giving them a lashing may not help the situation compared to talking through why they are acting that way.
> compared to talking through why they are acting that way.
I agree empathy must be deployed to everyone here. However there are some things that must be stopped at source. I leave that judgement to the reader.
Re:Why I no longer contribute to Racket
by hendrikboom3 on Saturday June 19, 2021 @07:51AM
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Stopping at source can be more effective if done with empathy.
If the body tasked with enforcing the CoC is the same one being an abusive penis, its not going to change things.
However, I agree that its pretty shocking that people seem to struggle with the basics of human interaction. Yes social conditions are indeed real(the autism spectrum et al), but that's not a cover for being a weapons grade tool.
more importantly the is no excuse to indulging these behaviours. If you see it, call it the fuck out. I don't mean "be the ally" pussy footing around. Empathise with the belittled party and redress the person(s) being a shit. Yes it will be touch and go, but unless you set boundaries, "founders" and "thought leaders" will continue to be obnoxious shits who chase the fun out of everything.