Summary: Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi with Tahl Raz

Re:Summary: Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi with Tahl Raz by BeetleB on Sunday June 13, 2021 @04:02PM (#27495844)

Yeah - loved the book but this one was hard to swallow. I agree with him in one sense[1], but not to the extreme.

At some point in your life your time and resources will be quite constrained, and you simply can't help everyone. You need to strategize who to help, and identifying "leeches" requires some level of score keeping.

I've certainly had multiple people speak ill of me to others saying that I stopped trying to connect with them. They fail to mention that in the last N years, they never connected with me. It was always me initiating the phone call/email, etc. And I can say that definitively only because I had phone and email records going back years. Simple thing to script.

(BTW, not recommending you stop calling people because they never call you - merely illustrating people's lousy behavior in response to it).

[1] You're always going to have to give a lot more than you receive. Networking is fundamentally very inefficient, if you make this a metric.

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Re:Summary: Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi with Tahl Raz by z5h on Sunday June 13, 2021 @04:32PM (#27496153)

I wouldn't mind the message if it were delivered a bit more honestly. Maybe: do some favours to folks before you need any in return... then don't be shy about asking for help when you need it... especially from those you've done favours for (and their peers and family). But don't expect help in return from everyone.

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