Interestingly I have a daughter and I really have 0 fear: she'll be raised like a boy as far as we make choices, at best she'll have a meaningful empowering career at worst she'll have a husband and kids and we'll help her if she needs.

I'd be weirdly worried about a boy feeling like crap without a big career or needing our help. I know a daughter would be much less humiliated at the prospect.