I've mostly done the bare minimum in life, at things that I didn't want to do. I agree I'm undisciplined. It took a long time to find my own path, and something to strive for.

I think your labels are part of the problem. They're not narcissists. They're people. And you look down on them just for being people.

If you want to help them, perhaps treat them as equals and listen to them rather than thinking of ways to change them.

I wish I knew their gamer tags so that I could play a few rounds of halo with them, or whatever they like to play. They seem chill.