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Re:Fewer young men are in the labor force, more are living a... by yaitsyaboi on Friday June 11, 2021 @07:24PM (#27479726)
As a person who is in this age range and in essentially the opposite position--my disabled mother and college age sister live with me in coastal California--the kind of thing you're describing with the guy who wouldn't come out of the room is bonkers. I know this kind of person exists as an archetype but between your anecdote and the article I'm just baffled at the apparent prevalence.

I guess part of it is the fact that my circumstances didn't even make that lifestyle an option. By my late teen years it was increasingly obvious that I had to go in the kind of direction I did if I wanted my family to have a decent life. If I had a middle class nuclear family, is it likely that I would've tore through CS classes and leetcode as much as I did? I kinda doubt it.

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Re:Fewer young men are in the labor force, more are living a... by grawprog on Friday June 11, 2021 @09:24PM (#27480503)
I felt bad writing that seemingly picking on the middle-upper class, because as much as I've seen that there...the worst example I know of is not that.

A family member of mine has not ever had a job. Everyone has tried to help him. I've given him two jobs at two different companies personally. His mom works at a dollar store and a cheap clothing store just to pay rent. She begs him to work. He spends all his time playing Xbox. She's gotten to the point where she's going to kick him out and move in with her other son. He's responded by drinking and hanging out with homeless junkies. Thank fuck as far as i know he hasn't started doing the strange purple heroin they do nowadays apparently and shit. But it's really terrible watching this. He's almost 30. There's no reason this should be happening.

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Re:Fewer young men are in the labor force, more are living a... by RGamma on Saturday June 12, 2021 @04:04PM (#27487089)
Precarious life (esp. in a poor society, but not just) can be a mighty motivator.

Probably one of the reasons immigrants from poor backgrounds fare well.

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