Under my own understanding, a compassionate person is acting in the interest of your resilience and isn't merely providing a well-disguised form of sympathy, or enablement, that stops you from growing. Compassion in that form may not feel like it until sometime later on.

I think it's largely a subjective concept and we all take different meaning from it, but I developed some of this thinking after reading The Compassionate Mind.[1]

[1] https://uk.bookshop.org/books/the-compassionate-mind