It seems like everyone is articulating ‘emotional hostage taking’. This is actually a very very common thing amongst Asian (all of Asia) parents. It usually goes something like this:

Look at how hard your parents work for you, and here you are not doing this and that, or doing something that don’t match our values.

And this is a constant lifelong guilt-burden that they utilize. It’s almost as if they feel entitled to something just because they had to do stuff in life ... like work a blue collar job.

The stuff that the new American generation is doing is a remix of that age old form of abuse.