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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by closeparen on Wednesday May 05, 2021 @05:02PM (#27055788)
We bridge those other differences by sucking it up and doing things that aren’t our favorites. Someone who has sex she doesn’t want in order to keep the peace in a relationship has been violated and victimized, in a way that someone who does more household chores than he would prefer to or refrains from buying her favorite clothes on the joint credit card, hasn’t. Sex is unique this way.

Maybe that wasn’t the consensus view 50 years ago, but it is now.

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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by Viliam1234 on Wednesday May 05, 2021 @05:14PM (#27055927)
There seems to be a different norm when genders are reversed, though.

https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/...

> Weston says her abuser used to withhold sexual contact during times when she asked to be intimate. He also used withholding affection as a punishment. “If I looked at him wrong, he refused to kiss me,” she says.

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