On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness

Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by parineum on Wednesday May 05, 2021 @01:48AM (#27046634)

Ironically, I think the internet's connection is causing the problem on both ends of the phenomenon.

Dating apps allow women to expand their dating pool to people they would never encounter in everyday life. I have quite a few female friends and I've been around them while they're swiping around and they are absolutely brutal in a way that's not at all malicious.

Then the regular (male) losers in that system can then all commiserate on 4Chan.

I think a smaller dating pool forced women to give men who _seemed_ less ideal matches a chance and resulted in more successful relationships.

I suspect that both men and women don't have any idea what would actually make a good relationship but they have a "type" that they like. With a limited pool, you could work through everyone of your type in a reasonable time frame. With a larger pool, it can take forever.

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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by CRConrad on Wednesday May 05, 2021 @02:08PM (#27053477)

> I have quite a few female friends and I've been around them while they're swiping around and they are absolutely brutal in a way that's not at all malicious.

Depends on how you define "malicious", doesn't it?

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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by parineum on Thursday May 06, 2021 @03:28AM (#27060148)

I just mean that they're saying "no" to the slightest thing. And, really, they have to do that for time purposes. It's just kind of shocking how selective they can be and still be successful.

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