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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by bradlys on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @04:14PM (#27042340)
> I say enjoy being single. If a relationship happens, good for you, but don't listen to people that say you're damaged / worse off / going down the drain because you're single. They're just jealous you can travel and play video games whenever you want. =)

This is infantilizing people's desires. Enjoying being single is something that many people just cannot do. To me, it's like telling someone who is paralyzed from the waist down to just walk it off - you can still enjoy all that life has to offer... Assuming those things don't involve the use of your legs!

For many people - this is debilitating. A lot of people are just wired up this way.

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Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness by BeFlatXIII on Wednesday May 05, 2021 @07:40AM (#27048651)
How many people are truly incapable of happiness while single and how many need a romantic relationship because they see it as the only reliable way to have a friendship that outlasts eight apartment moves and five job changes? When people no longer have reasonable access to social lives outside work and marriage, it’s no wonder so many are unhappily single.
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