Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness
by void_mint on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:19PM
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You're kind of just arguing past the people in this thread ("these relationships in my life are healthy and not codependent, so codependence is not a problem in relationships"). I would also argue that your takes offer the same "armchair psychoanalysis" you're arguing against, fwiw.
> If we're redefining romantic devotion as an "addiction" then I think we have officially lost the plot.
No one is redefining anything. This term is poorly defined. Codependence is not "romantic devotion". "Romantic devotion" should not be codependence.
Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness
by thepasswordis on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:23PM
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When you use the word "codependent", what do you mean?
Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness
by lovegoblin on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:35PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#Romantic_relation...
> Commonly observable characteristics of codependency are:
> intense and unstable interpersonal relationships
> *inability to tolerate being alone, accompanied by frantic efforts to avoid being alone*
> ...
Re:On incels, dead bedrooms and the hard problems of loneliness
by wizzwizz4 on Tuesday May 04, 2021 @02:37PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Codependency#Individual_dynami...
> A codependent is someone who cannot function on their own and whose thinking and behavior is instead organized around another person, process, or substance.
Well okay I suppose that the people I'm talking about, in their 50+ year relationships would describe their love for their partner as a type of addiction, but what you might be missing there is: that is a joke, and they are being cute.
If we're redefining romantic devotion as an "addiction" then I think we have officially lost the plot.