Couldn't agree more. It seems incredibly selfish to have children and then hand them over to strangers to raise. It's wildly unfair to the child, and as you said, unhealthy for the planet.

I don't have a coherent thesis, but I've been thinking a lot about the connection between the collapse of civil society, the proliferation of loneliness, and the fact that so many children are being raised by transient strangers they have no real ties to. It strikes me as a blueprint for a dystopian society.