That has a lot more to do with personality than career. If you’re an irritating know-it-all weirdo, people aren’t going to like you regardless of your job. I’ve known engineers like that that, but most people I know and work with are normal people and are respected.

That victim blaming just plain doesn't line up with reality. Outright assholes are downright lionized. Perfectly upright people are looked down upon for "weird" fields or ones which make them feel insecure or inadequate.

> irritating know-it-all

Sounds like lawyers and doctors (or plenty of people really).

> weirdo

That is a bit of a stereotype. I suspect a large percentage of software jobs are filled by standard people. The weirdos do stand out, but I don’t know anyone who actually fits the Hollywood stereotype.

And weirdo be replaced by equally socially unacceptable traits (arrogant or closed-minded etcetera) that apply to doctors and lawyers.

Not really.

If you work in software people think it’s cool.

It maybe was low status 20 years ago, but since 2010 or so it’s changed.

Even in NYC the finance people prefer to talk about their app ideas rather than admit they work at a bank.

Compare that to someone who drives for Amazon - the cultural status is not the same.