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Re:My experience with sexual harassment in the Scala community by throway98752343 on Tuesday April 27, 2021 @09:34PM (#26964329)
> If she doesn't know whether she genuinely consents to sex or not, then how is it morally acceptable to have sex with her?

Thing is, this is all a nonissue if your partner is enthusiastically into having sex with you.

So maybe more mutually fulfilling romps and less "well it was borderline but I did it anyway."

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Re:My experience with sexual harassment in the Scala community by JamesBarney on Wednesday April 28, 2021 @12:50AM (#26965719)
Yes consent isn't an issue when you assume your partner is consenting.

The problem is enthusiasm varies wildly. There are people I know whose sex would never be described as enthusiastic. There are lots of mild mannered anxious lovers out there. And I could see how it would be difficult for someone to judge the exact level of enthusiasm in a new lover.

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